A U. S. psychology author has advised that the key to creating and maintaining relationships is you, not your partner.

Beginning "spiritual psychology" by not blaming current and potential partners, but by having people search inside themselves, Anthony O. Nwachukwu, author of "Keeping Human Relationships Together: Self Guide to Healthy Living Studies in Spiritual Psychology vis-a-vis Human Values" which he describes as a guide for supervising oneself to create and maintain fulfilling relationships, suggests.

Nwachukwu says in a statement, "You can't expect your partner to be honest when you are selfish and greedy, or to keep an honest relationship with a person you deceive. It is one thing to tell an unreliable husband to stop deceiving himself, his wife or family, but another to find out why he has such a bad habit and to give him the skills he needs to heal his problem from its root."

His insights are based on systematically developed and tested surveys he conducted in West Africa and the United States, says Nwachukwu, who is also a Roman Catholic clergyman. (With Inputs from Agencies)